Darshana Patel is an Energy Intuitive, Medium, and Host of the show enLight’n Up on The Lighter Side Network. After 20 years in the corporate world, Darshana traded in her corporate armor for the tools of a spiritual warrior at her business, Unscripted Way. She has been shifting the paradigms of possibility for everyday people ever since. Gifted with the ability to see and feel subtle energy from birth, Darshana helps her clients to “see the unseen”, and to resolve and repattern energy distortions. Her own life experiences provide the perfect mix of intellect and compassion to help others blaze new pathways to unleash their full potential. Darshana possesses an undergrad in Information Systems, a Master’s in Transformative Conflict, and advanced certifications in organizational change and personal transformation. While working to complete her prefatory book, “A Field Guide for the New Awakening,” Darshana furthers her mission to create new realms of possibilities for all spiritual warriors in-the-making. At home, she enjoys the constant repatterning that comes with raising a talented teenaged daughter in Atlanta, GA.
Shantel: Darshana welcome to the Imagine More podcast.
Darshana: Thanks so much for having me on, I'm happy to be here.
Shantel: Yes, of course, we're excited to learn more about the Unscripted Way and your journey to become an entrepreneur. To kick things off will you tell everyone a little bit about Unscripted Way and how you I guess got started in that specific company?
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Darshana: Yeah, absolutely, so I founded Unscripted Way about I guess I'm going on four years now and what I do is I work with the subtle energy in and around the body so as we'll talk about today, I made a transition out of the corporate world into the spiritual world, just honor my childhood passion and so what I do day to day is help re-pattern energy, basically vibration in and around the body, this conscious field of energy that is, you know, the life force itself, a lot of people who are doing yoga talk about prana, so that's what I'm working on is with the prana, the chi, some cultures call it the ki, that subtle energy around that body. I do energy sessions with clients as well as readings for groups, so I am a medium as well, and I clear homes and businesses to re-pattern energy and infuse intention into a space also. I do also, you know, some corporate work, some consulting, I'm beginning to weave that back into my practice.
Shantel: That is exciting, speaking of the yoga practice, is that something you practice as well?
Darshana: You know I had been for several years and then because of an injury that I had, I backed off for about two years but I'm ready to get back into it. It was an instrumental part of my ... was recalibrating mind body emotion and soul, it was very pivotal, I would say instrumental in my expansion of capacity.
Shantel: Yeah it is something that I recently just got into and then in trying to ... or trying to get into because when I do practice it every week I notice such a difference in my stress level so I was just interested to hear if that was something maybe along the energy side. Speaking of your childhood, so you touched on childhood passion, so is this ... and then you did the corporate world, have you also been passionate about energy, can you talk a little bit more about your childhood and what maybe led you in that direction?
Darshana: Absolutely, so as a child Shantel, I could always feel energy and talk to spirits, you know I know that may not be in some people's belief systems but for me it was real and I would get information about the universe, you know, I remember being like maybe four or five years old and hearing these voices talking about everything is energy, you're not just this physical body, you know. There's this emotional, intellectual, or mental, there's this spiritual realm and the emotional side, like I was getting all these lessons from an early age and it does run in my ancestry on my moms side of the family, she's quite intuitive and gifted. My grandmother who passed before I was born actually predicted the date of her death, she died at a very early age and my brother is quite intuitive as well as my daughter who is now 18, is quite intuitive. So it's always been a part of my reality and my experience and then, you know, I did the corporate thing for 20 years and just followed the logical brain. I have a degree in Information Systems so I love the logic side but I also have a very keen sense of being able to see things at a macro level, so that was a paramount piece of my career, which we can talk about in a minute, but from an entrepreneurial standpoint, this idea of being inspired by something, this ... a palpable sensation that I had as a child, I think when you're in tune with subtle energy and for the listeners out there, it's that dotal burning yearning of the soul, there's some connection that happens when you know you're headed in the right direction, you know where there's a pull for something new and I think that's why they call it the entrepreneurial spirit, I mean look at the word itself. We don't call it the entrepreneurial brain or even the heart, the spirit, you know, I think that tells us something, that we're reaching beyond how we know ourselves, we're the risk takers and the innovators because we're not afraid to say wow, I don't have the answer to that, that answer doesn't exist, let's go find one and that's where innovation and creativity and inspiration, look at the word, it's to be inspired, to be in spirit, and I think that's where entrepreneurs are so guided by that intuitive force and that's what I felt early on was I had a very strong connection with my intuition. Then I could talk about my family context and how that fed that same inspired sensation if you will.
Shantel: Yeah, I would love to hear on the family side, were they receptive to you switching gears, supportive, yeah?
Darshana: You know it's been an interesting journey because I grew up with my parents, you know we were first generation, I was 11 months old when we moved to the states from India, so I saw my parents ... I remember the photo of them with the one suitcase, you know, two kids on their arms, and they came to the United States with, you know, the dream for a better life and I watched them persevere, not knowing the language, teaching themselves the language in the evenings, collaborating together to dream what's next and so I started noticing these behaviors, you know, as I grew and just witnessing my parents create such an environment of stability and and safety for me and my brother. The first thing I learned from them is that possibility causes us to reach beyond whatever circumstance we're in, like we were in some tough situations and circumstances and they always saw possibility so that was one of the early behaviors and values that I picked up. Then clarity, they always had a plan, why were they coming to the United States, what was that going to look like, what were their goals in that first year, second year, third year, so as I grew I saw how they planned an executed with such discipline and persistence, which you know I now weave into my business even though it's an intuitive business, I have to remain grounded and I have to execute with clarity and precision and vision. Then I saw my parents always taking time in the morning and evening for prayer and meditation, no matter how busy they were, often working the two jobs and then later my dad, after he got laid off, started businesses you know, the convenience store and the Dunkin Donuts and even in the midst of a 24 hour business, they would make time, somehow, for prayer and meditation and the connection, that surrender to something bigger. So that was another piece that was in my foundation, just witnessing that, so all of these behaviors and values I think really emboldened me to not be afraid to step outside of the box once I realized I was in a box in that corporate world, it fed me, it nurtured me, I felt good in it and yet something was missing and then I knew it was time to make a shift into this work. It was disruptive, you know, it didn't align with the family beliefs and so that required more work for me to look at what are the beliefs tied to what needs or the qualities of life but then how were my strategies going to be different than my parents and how I met those qualities of life like stability, like fulfillment. Like what did fulfillment and success mean for me, it was very different than how my parents defined it, so that's why I started Unscripted Way. The name emerged from my own journey of having to step out, of how do I know what I know, what are the underlying beliefs behind how I move about the world and how I make choices or react versus respond, so I really had to take some years to do quite a bit of deep reflection and I think entrepreneurs are like that. We need time to push ourselves and to push ourselves we have to understand what's holding us back.
Shantel: Mm-hmm, and I loved how you touched on how success is so different and it's so subjective to who you are and what you believe and what you want out of life and I think that's really interesting as, you know, just being in society and the pressures around everything to quote unquote be successful and how that's so vague because successful to one person could mean something so different and I'm glad you touched on that and brought the family into that because I think that's really profound.
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Darshana: Yes, I think that's one of the things that hold people back is that we are allowing others to define success for us so we're never measuring up and that just feeds the ego, feeling invalidated and not good enough and so when we start to define success for ourselves and for me it's fulfillment and then I had to build my mission around what does fulfillment look like, you know, I'm honoring my gifts and my passions while staying balanced in the material, emotional, mental, and energetic sense, but then in service to my mission of raising global consciousness, so when I defined fulfillment in that context all of a sudden there's just freedom and ease in everyday because I define it. I'm not measured by any external metric on what it looks like because to me it's not what it looks like, it's how it feels like.
Shantel: Mm-hmm, I love that, bringing the feeling into it, I think sometimes it's easy to forget that piece, you know, it's all material and it looks great and it seems great but the feeling, how you actually achieve when you feel something is that important element. Okay, so similar to the yoga question, I'm now thinking about meditation and are you an avid ... do you practice meditating like your family did?
Darshana: Absolutely, so here's the deal, we've done a great job in the western world around meditation and making it so hard. The thing is meditation is not something we do, it's a way of being, it's a context, it's a way of operating we're we are simply in the present moment and so whatever needs to emerge and arise in fulfillment with out inspired selves begins to show up. So what we love to do in the western world is give a series of steps in the things to do and you're doing it wrong and the minute we apply judgment to meditation, we're not meditating because that's the ego self versus in meditation, we're saying there's something animating this body, right, so we're reaching beyond the local mind as wired brain, which is just like a software program running on this hardwired neural pathways that can be wired once we step out of that script, so the mind is scripted but with meditation we're allowing ourselves to step into the observers seat. I call it the divine self, it's the one who sees the see, it's the seer behind the eyes, right, so it's the none local mind if you will, it's a field of consciousness and it's stepping out of that voice in the head into that observers space and it's something we can be doing all the time because it's a way of being in the present moment. Not being pulled by the past or the future through that voice in the head, we're remaining very grounded, it's just being aware of our awareness.
Darshana: So it's something I do in my practice, it is my practice.
Shantel: That's great and in such a digital world how do you stay present and stay grounded inside your business and personally at home with so many things pinging and so much information, do you have tools or techniques that you use to unplug?
Darshana: That's a great point because for me being so energetically sensitive or empathic, right, that's the word we use is I can't be around the electronic devices all day so I will put my phone away. Luckily when I'm in client sessions my phone is turned upside down, it's either in the off position where I don't see it, I don't feel it, I don't hear it, I'm not curious about it, so I can be totally grounded and present. I think that's really important, so in the business it's very easy, when I come home though I want to catch up on my Facebook feed, I want to see what people are up to and I want to support people and like and I find that my energy gets very depleted or it's 28 minutes later and I'm still doing that and I'm almost waiting for something exciting and you know, for that stimulus in the brain to get my little drip and so I notice that in my personal life it becomes more challenging because I'm having to be so focused at work. I think a lot of entrepreneurs are like that, we're so focused at work that we just need to unplug but we're unplugging by plugging in.
Darshana: It's not recharging us so I think for me it's been, alright, close down the social media, you know, I only check it at certain times. So I'm actually building my practices right now to address where I know I have some focus issues in the home life with social media.
Shantel: I appreciate you sharing that. So when you first started the company, would love to dive into initial challenges that you had to overcome as being a new business owner, does anything come to mind?
Darshana: So yes, I would say with this type of business, when I officially launched ... so when I left corporate America I was doing organization change work, when I made that transition out I didn't know how this was going to go because most practitioners doing what I do have other jobs or have a second income and I'm sole provider in the family and I have a teenage daughter so you know, it was a big risk to not know will I be sustainable and that's what I ... I just had to keep aligning with my intuition and that passion in my soul that said this is what you're intended to do, trust me it's all going to be okay, so I jumped right in. I think the biggest challenge was getting out of my own thinking that this wouldn't be possible and just trusting. So everyday I had to get myself out of the way.
Shantel: I love that, did you have a network of people around you that supported you during that transition or did you tap into a certain network?
Darshana: Initially no, it did evolve organically where I did become affiliated with a center where there are other practitioners doing similar work to me, which has been phenomenal and that's where my home base is, my physical office is in a center where there are other healing modalities, everything from physical therapy, massage therapy, there's an intuitive psychic medium who founded the center, she's remarkable, myself and then we also have a network where we have programming that we create, Lighter Side Network, and so I've been surrounding myself now with other healers, practitioners, just people who are inspired by the work of innovation through intuition is kind of how I would put it.
Shantel: It sounds like such a great network and I'm excited to link to that in the show notes as well, you're also writing a book right?
Darshana: I sure am, yes.
Shantel: I'd love to hear more about that, what will be the topic of the book?
Darshana: So you know writing a book has been one of the biggest ... I see now why they say it's tougher than pregnancy because this one's been going on for couple years now. So the book is ... it's an aggregation of a lot of content that I've channeled. So channeling is essentially, for me I do automatic writing or I'm just in the present moment to ... in a space where my egoistical kind of gets packaged up so then I can allow the divine flow of information to flow through me, Esther Hicks is a well known channeler, so I do similar work, so I'm taking a lot of content that I've accumulated over the last couple of years and compiling it into a book and sharing my journey along the way of decoding what it all means and what is this new paradigm that I believe the world is moving into, this new consciousness that's beginning to emerge. So the book centers on the field guide to the new awakening, I think we need to support people who feel the shift energetically, consciously, emotionally, there's something happening in the world and our intuitive abilities are expanding, how do we work with that, what's the new language that we need to create so that we have the distinctions now to describe what we're feeling and sensing and perceiving.
Shantel: That's really exciting, congratulations.
Darshana: Thank you so much.
Shantel: Yeah, do you have a time frame or goal date that you'd love to have that published?
Darshana: Following my intuition, self published by June, so that's my self imposed goal, I think book one will be self published and I think once I've realized the possibility of writing, that it's something that I can manifest fully into a book then I think there's several more lined up after that.
Shantel: That's great, what does your day to day look like now and what are you hoping it to look like maybe a year from now?
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Darshana: Yeah, so right now I see clients nearly every day, as of 2018 I actually raised my rates now so that was something as a business owner I always look at, how much value is my time and how much am I expending in terms of energy and then what's the opportunity cost for the time that I'm with others versus the time I need to be in self reflection or just recharge mode with community, so I'm scaling back the number of sessions I do every month now to closer to 40 a month at my new rate structure versus ... I was doing 15-20 a week and it was becoming quite intense and I was grateful to have such abundance in the past year but now I'm looking at one week on, one week off, so I'm drastically reducing the number of clients in order to focus on the book and some of the more strategic content that I want to compile and put out in the world and then I think in the next year I was just doing my planning earlier today, in the next year I perceive some travel to sacred sites, especially here in the United States. We have some hot beds of some great activity in terms of just spiritual energy that I want to just feel and experience and write about and share. I'd like to continue my show and lighten up and really focus on the energy of places, so some travel and then I'm not sure where I'll end up and I ... this morning I was feeling like I might sell my business at some point and relocate, like right now I feel like things are in transition and I really ... I'm always okay not having clarity because when I'm just accepting that I'm not clear, there's clarity. So right now I'm just noticing that my world is going to restructure a bit and I think the book might be a launching off point for some of that.
Shantel: That's very exciting, do you have any advice for an entrepreneur or a budding entrepreneur getting ready to start their own business?
Darshana: You know I would say for me and especially in my line of work where it is unique is follow that burning yearning of the soul, don't think like ... don't think that you have to do it the way others have done it, really follow your own intuition because I think that's where innovation comes from, where creativity blossoms is when we're reaching beyond how we know what we know. The very learning structures that keep us limited to begin with, to extend beyond that we have to break through our own modularized thinking in order to be open and receptive to other ways of doing things and you know, look at disruptive technology. Things like block chain, it just shakes and destabilized the existing paradigms so we can step into a new one and I think right now, 2018 is going to be such a critical year where the entrepreneurial spirit is going to be absolutely vital because I think we're destabilizing our old infrastructure. Every old pillar of society is becoming more unstable because now we need to stand up the new paradigms to which we can step into, so trust your intuition, be bold and courageous in painting a vision of what we can be as a civilization. Don't give into the ridicule because that's just limited thinking by people who can't think outside the box and that's okay but we have to keep persevering to say why can't we, why can't we, what will it take to get there.
Shantel: Was there someone in your life that helped you think in this way and help you imagine more?
Darshana: You know, so I would give two, one in the physical form and one in the non physical form. One in the physical form was the founder of the center for Love and Light, Jamie Butler, and also the founder the Lighter Side Network, where my show is hosted. Jamie, his 20 years as a psychic medium and as a show host has done tremendously in a sense of normalizing this whole idea of being a medium and a intuitive and so her being a presence in my life validates my gifts and just helps me feel like there's hope, that we can continue doing what we're doing and we're changing lives around the world, so that's in the physical form. In the nonphysical form, when I'm meditating, there's just so much guidance that just starts to pour in and that really becomes my compass. So there's, yeah, for me I'm not making the decisions, I'm just following guidance.
Shantel: It sounds like I need to start meditating.
Darshana: You know here's the deal, when meditation becomes a to do, start journaling because that will clear the pipes, for me, I would just start writing all that stream of consciousness and just like clearing the pipes to go wow. What that does is it takes what your subject to anyway, all that thinking and the rattling around, the monkey mind, it takes all of that ... I call it the soundtrack to life and it puts it out on paper so you're no longer subject to it, you hold it out as object, and that little five year old that's criticizing you and being sarcastic in the mind gets to be heard and then it runs off into the other room for a while so things get quiet when you start to just have an outlet for hearing the thoughts in your head because you can literally step out of it and go but I'm not that voice, I'm the observer of the voice, how can the voice talk to itself, there's someone who hears the voice who I am is really the observer of the voice in the head.
Shantel: I love that, I am a huge proponent of list making and brain dumping all of your tasks so you don't have to be overwhelmed with everything going on in your head, but the ones ... I've done that business wise but I have not taken that on the personal ... like I have to do this laundry and do this next, so it sounds like that would be the next natural step so that I can start to meditate and I appreciate you sharing some of that advice.
Darshana: Absolutely, if you ever need some tips or pointers I'm happy to share, everyone's a little different because it's a way of being, it can be a personal experience and you don't have to be sitting still to do it, it's just what puts you in your zen state.
Shantel: Love that, Darshana how can people get in touch with you and learn more about the Unscripted Way?
Darshana: So the website is Unscriptedway.com, you can read up on my background there as well as my services, Facebook is a great way to connect with me, I often share my episodes and videos on there so that's on Facebook, Unscripted Way, those are probably the primary two.
Shantel: Great, well I so appreciate you being on this show and telling us more about your entrepreneurial journey.
Darshana: Shantel thanks so much for having me, I appreciate it.
Shantel: Of course.